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Bounderies in dating

Madeline knew it was time for a change—she needed stronger boundaries.

At 31, Madeline could not understand why her co-workers dumped extra work on her; why her family constantly intruded on her personal space; and why men who she had dated years ago continued trying to be part of her life, even after she told them she had started seeing someone else.

Stressed and burned out, Madeline finally reached her wit's end after her boyfriend of two years ended their relationship because she couldn't stop responding to suitors out of kindness.

Then we start to see what belongs to you, and what belongs to me. We each acknowledge this and make new choices accordingly. With that gift of freedom comes responsibility, and I embrace my own choices, behaviors, and emotions.

Remember, it's better to say no, suffer a bit of guilt, and then feel free and happy than to say yes, and feel resentful towards the person asking you to say 'yes'.

In addition to finding a strong sense of self-worth that existed apart from the value judgements of others, she also needed to learn how to set boundaries. Clearly define what your intellectual, emotional, physical, and spiritual boundaries are with strangers, work colleagues, friends, family, and intimate partners.

To start setting your boundaries straight, try these four things. Examine past experiences where you felt discomfort, anger, resentment or frustration with an individual.

With boundaries, we draw a line between “me” and “you.” We differentiate.