Start Early stages of dating a guy

Early stages of dating a guy

He's had a string of terrible relationships that will inform how he acts with you. It's very likely that he's been burned before and it was traumatic enough that he's wary of being hurt again.

Understanding his side of the situation (and why he's doing things that could initially be perceived as hurtful) will be very helpful moving forward. Those past relationships aren't necessarily romantic. Someone with trust issues might not have a big, flashing horrible relationship to point at.

With those last two points in mind, it may sometimes feel like you're the one who abandoned him in the first place.

It might take him some time to really warm up and trust you.

While a partner with a habit of cheating or emotional abuse is certainly a possibility, keep in mind that an absent parent or even a problematic friend could be the root cause. Maybe (and very unfortunately) he's the kind of person that lets people walk all over him, so he's had a revolving door of troubling relationships.3. In the early stages of the relationship, before you're even really aware of his trust issues, he might find it tough to be in a relationship because he likes you a lot and is afraid to invest in a relationship he assumes is just going to hurt him.

It might take some time and slow progress, but he'll likely come around.

He might really grill you when you go out or don't answer his texts for hours or any other thing that could make him feel insecure. For similar reasons, he might think it's a great idea to always spend time with you since that way, you can't go off and cheat on him.

He's not doing it because he thinks you're horrible, but because he expects that behavior and he expects to get betrayed. If he isn't actively trying to work through it, it's going to put a strain on your relationship. This might sound great to anyone who really likes to dive into a relationship, but it's certainly a nightmare for everyone else.

Just be aware that, on the flip side, not every guy that doesn't want to commit to a relationship with you has trust issues. Trust your instincts, and don't wait around for just anyone.4. Even typical relationship milestones like saying "I love you" might come hard to him, because again, the less he invests, the less he can get hurt.